The One with The Impossible (Pt I)
Moonlight Sonata – Beethoven
The more I know, the more intimidate I get. My stories of previous past have been easy, only one case was exceptional. And taking from that point of view I guess I’m young in that sense.
When it comes to relationships I really have no clue on what I’m doing. I get ideas, I have ideas on what to do initially, the romancing, the courting, the acts. Dating I’m good at, loving I’m good at. The relationship and what it entails is what I’m so sorely hopeless with.
Making plans for dates, laying out the terms, the activities, the setting, location and what not. Be it flowers, cupcakes, chocolates, candles and whatever rocks her boat, those are superficial and only to give her the impression at first. But there is no reason not to pamper her, if you must court then show her a good time (Something I haven’t practice in a while due to personal reasons).
Loving her, this is easy. It really is. Once this is "feeling" attained, forgiveness, sacrifice, acceptance, patience… they all come to you in ten folds. Meaning being with the other person is selectively easier as you are able to accept them more. But attaining love is the difficult part. It means letting your guard down. Might as well put a sign which say “Come in devil, make yourself at home”.
The relationship – what is this? In and outside of marriage it’s the same just with different strictness. The everyday acts? What constitute as that? Sleeping in each others arms? Doing things together? Wishing pleasant sentiments to one another? Basically a series of routine of the prized acts that we do to please one another but magnified. But is there anything else? Asides just enjoying each others' company? And is that really just enough?
In a love letter written by the ex she proclaimed: “being with you made me a better person”, a true contradiction of how and what she felt when she decided to end the relationship.
Countless examples of failed marriages have shown to me that people are just destined to want change. We can’t just accept routine. Explains the ups and downs of relationships. The dramas is a form of excitement, makes thing interesting for good or for bad. But when the dust settles, can the couple hope to still stand together? If they really have attained love then perhaps.
A drama filled relationship is destined to fail,for it wears out the two individuals, a drama-less relationship bares no excitement and stands to fail too. My relationships tend to be boring, for I am a person who dislikes drama. Makes me wonder if any girl could actually handle that? Not to say I’m not spontaneous, those close to me knows I’m hardly predictable, but maybe.. just maybe…
-Sayonara-
2 comments:
IMHO - just take it a step at a time. You have nothing to lose
You lose sight.
Loving her, this is easy. It really is. Once this "feeling" is attained, forgiveness, sacrifice, acceptance, patience… they all come to you in ten folds.
That is the relationship - the journey. From letting your guard down to learning to accept and compromise. As boring as it sounds, that is the essence of it.
A relationship with drama is what girls like to have when they watch too many series. A relationship without drama is not boring, if you learn to appreciate the little things.
I don't remember what it was like when I first saw a rainbow, but everytime I see one, I smile. This morning I saw an old balding man playing with his Alsation puppy and that meant the world to me - because the littlest things count. I remember the first time we held hands, the time I stupidly sat in the car so quiet because I was trying to hard to memorise what our hands looked like together. When there is a moment of dissatisfaction, it fades because of that memory.
Maybe it is because I'm an idealist. But I don't think serial dramas are much good in real life, that's why we watch it on the box. If you feel like a relationship is boring, you don't belong in one, because it is simply what it is; love.
Seeing his face every 5 minutes makes me smile and we're still counting.
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